You’ve had that feeling.
I’ve had that feeling.
We’ve all had that feeling.
You just. freaking. want. to. kill. that. one. person.
How could they be such an idiot? How dare they criticize your work or refuse to pay you, when they’re the ones who asked for exactly what you delivered? How can they sleep at night?? How can you get a lock of their hair to weave into a curse that shall last for seven generations??!!!
… and so on.
You, my friend, need to learn more about managing anger as a freelancer.
Anyone who has ever had a mother or a boyfriend or a child or a relationship of any kind with any type of human being knows the feeling of complete and total, blinding white rage. Especially if you’re like me, and your temper has been on a hair trigger your whole life.
Unfortunately, you and your clients (or prospective clients) are both human. Even if they’re really crazy, you’re probably a little crazy also. The mix – depending on your state of mind, their state of mind, the project, the price and the house in which Saturn currently resides – can be incendiary if you’re not careful.
I have been at the butt of a client’s explosive rage several times. It sucks.
I have exploded myself exactly one time that I recall. Unfortunately, I was a subcontractor at the time, so my contractor gave me a very sharp reprimand. I remember it to this day (so perhaps it was fortunate after all).
The point? People are people. They have feelings.
When you have feelings (of imminent homicide), it’s time to look to these skills for managing your anger.
The following tips have helped me on numerous occasions to swallow my rage and either work with a client or fire them in a calm and mannerly fashion.
In some cases, my calm has infuriated clients further, and they fire me. That’s okay, because most people know when they’re being insane and won’t publicly shred you when that’s the case. True story. So the best bet is to keep hold of your sanity while they do what they will.
Here are my favorite tips for managing anger as a freelancer:
These tips are my favorite ones for managing anger as a freelancer. If you have others, please email me and let me know!
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